Sunday, September 29, 2013

stupid brain

so i have this really bad habit of letting things eat at me, no matter how hard i try. and they eat at me for a long time. and it usually seems to be stupid things, and i don't know how to stop it. like lately i feel like i'm failing at some many different aspects and relationships at life, and i think a part of this has to do with my crazy schedule and the crazy schedule of other people. but i feel stupid and it eats at me when i try to talk to people, and they seem to stay silent. and then i let it eat and eat at me, and i feel like it's somehow my fault, even though i know i haven't done anything. i also hate when plans for hanging out fall through and i don't get to see my friends in so long. (i'm soooo looking forward to friday and hanging out with a friend i haven't hung out with in months) and i think maybe part of my problem is i get my hopes up for it, and then when it falls through i get disappointed and then tell myself i shouldn't get such high hopes, but it continues happening all the time.

for example...last week i had a really good coffee date with someone (at least on my side it was a really good one. i'm hoping he thought the same thing) we talked a bit more during the week, not much because he has a busy schedule. i excitedly told some friends about it, and they were happy for me (i don't go on dates often) and we were planning to hang out last night. then it fell through. (lucky hilary was having a thirty one party, so i was able to go to that instead.) i bought us tickets to the chiefs v chargers game, and i'm hoping nothing bad happens to this between now and then.

i mostly bring this up because it's hard for me to make good friends any more, and sometimes i feel like it's because i've become pickier about who i let into my life (which i feel is not totally a bad thing) but i also feel like maybe i'm too picky, and that i'm also too hard on myself. i need to figure out how to be not like this. sorry for the rambling

1 comment:

Alesha said...

Don't worry! I totally struggle with the same thing. Keep speaking the truth of God's Word into you heart and fears. When I was intensely struggling with this about a month ago, God told me to stop focusing on me and focus on blessing my friends and thinking about/caring about them. It made a huge difference. But I still have to continually remind myself of that and push myself to live from my identity in Jesus.
Alesha <3